Yeah, that's bad. Not going to try to tell you it isn't.
My first thought is you need to weigh how much you trust this person. It is said that if you trust someone with a secret, you trust everyone they trust as well, but there are some secrets that most people can be expected to keep if they value you as much as you value them. If you think you can get away with it, tell her about it - be open and honest, in confidence. If your situation is going to be a dealbreaker, it will either be one now, or one later, and there is no point waiting around only for it to all fall down further along the line: It does neither of you any good mentally, and depending on the circumstances, might be disrespectful of her maturity.
Take a deep breath, look before you leap, and let her know. If she's still there in the aftermath, you'll both be ten times stronger, and closer, for it.
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branchandroot
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Date: 2013-12-31 10:22 am (UTC)Yeah, that's bad. Not going to try to tell you it isn't.
My first thought is you need to weigh how much you trust this person. It is said that if you trust someone with a secret, you trust everyone they trust as well, but there are some secrets that most people can be expected to keep if they value you as much as you value them. If you think you can get away with it, tell her about it - be open and honest, in confidence. If your situation is going to be a dealbreaker, it will either be one now, or one later, and there is no point waiting around only for it to all fall down further along the line: It does neither of you any good mentally, and depending on the circumstances, might be disrespectful of her maturity.
Take a deep breath, look before you leap, and let her know. If she's still there in the aftermath, you'll both be ten times stronger, and closer, for it.
Best of luck,
Uncle Thyrian