Your holding to your responsibilities while they continue to not only ignore theirs, but also impede yours makes you a far better person than they can even aspire to being.

The level of eloquent malevolence contained simply within your reply when referring to BUSMS suggests that you may well achieve your ends there, and that the final product will be a piece of art (agonising and pain-inducing, but art nevertheless and one I wouldn't mind seeing, given the standard of your writing). The offer stands anyway - as you say, we can but dream.